Nothing excuses the mistreatment or abuse of another person. Following the tragic news of late gospel musician Osinachi Nwachukwu's suspected domestic violence, the tribe felt compelled to give information on how to survive an abusive relationship.
Abuse can affect anyone, regardless of how intelligent or sinfulon they are. Nonetheless, being proactive about your recovery and post-surgery life is a start in the right path.
On that subject, here is some advice to assist you on your path as an abuse survivor. Never hold yourself responsible!
1. Leave
Leaving an abusive relationship is the first step to surviving it. Leaving is the most difficult but crucial step in surviving. You must permanently escape that scenario.
Remove yourself from the abuser's immediate vicinity and turn off all communication. Out of sight will gradually fade from memory. Giving your abuser unrestricted access to you will only encourage them to believe they have a chance to repeat the abuse, or worse, gaslight you into believing you are fabricating the abuse.
If a small voice in your head tells you otherwise, it's time to shake things up. No romance is worth risking your life for. Leave!
2. Seek Professional Assistance
Relationships that are abusive are terrible and leave too many scars. Seeking expert treatment, such as counseling, can aid in your recovery. Even if you relapse, these specialists are well-trained to take you through a systematic healing process.
Survivors can get mental and legal aid from organizations like the Mirabel Centre in Lagos.
3. Create a solid support system
Abusers have a history of isolating their victims from their loved ones. If that's the case, go ahead and rebuild your support system.
Being around your support system can be the breath of fresh air you require to begin your recovery process. They'll also be a shoulder to cry on, listening ears when you're ready to talk about your trauma, and a firm hand if you feel compelled to reconnect with your abuser.
4. Make a conscious effort to rediscover happiness.
Allowing the abuser to win is not an option. Make a conscious effort to rediscover happiness. This could include resuming old activities, discovering new ones, or even resuming new (and healthy) relationships.
5. Take Care of Yourself
Allow yourself time and compassion. There may be times when you want to return, but that does not mean you want to be abused. Giving yourself grace to be human will help you move on and survive.
Also, remember to take care of your mental health on a regular basis.