Attitudes towards artificial intelligence have become a new dating dealbreaker, with some singles in San Francisco writing it into their dating profiles as a condition for matching, according to The Verge. In a report published on 6 November, The Verge describes Hinge users completing the app's "We'll get along if" prompt with statements such as "Fuck AI", while others write: "You should not go out with me if... you use AI."
The pattern was spotted by Irene, a 25-year-old analyst who moved to San Francisco last year and began using Hinge to meet people and get to know her new city, according to The Verge. She found profiles volunteering their position on AI unprompted, often from people working in the arts, nursing or graphic design. An independent analysis of the report by Implementi.ai, published on 8 November, notes that these statements function as personal value signals, letting users screen for shared attitudes before starting a conversation.
The divide runs both ways. The Verge also describes Joseph, a 21-year-old software engineer working 14-hour days on a startup, who has handed his Hinge swiping to a fine-tuned AI agent managed by a virtual assistant. A 2025 survey by Match and the Kinsey Institute, cited in the reporting, found that 26 percent of singles in the United States use AI tools to help with dating. Hinge itself now offers an AI tool that generates suggested replies, and Bumble is developing Bee, its AI matchmaking assistant, according to the reports.
For couples and daters, the practical point is that technology beliefs are joining politics, religion and lifestyle as early compatibility questions. Dating coaches quoted in the coverage are split: some advise clients to avoid the topic on a first meeting, while others suggest treating it as an efficient screening tool for long-term compatibility. The honest conversation is worth having early — whether one partner uses AI at work, leans on it to write messages, or objects to it on principle — before those differences surface as a surprise.
Readers should note that this is a field report from daters in tech hubs such as San Francisco, Seattle and Austin, not a survey, so there is no figure for how common the dealbreaker is across dating apps or age groups, and the body does not claim one. What it does show is that in the city where the technology is built, how you feel about AI now shapes who you date.